We need to talk about the word strong.
For generations, Black women have been praised for their resilience, their unshakeable resolve and their ability to carry the weight of the world on their backs — both at home and in the workplace.
But here’s the truth: that label is not always a compliment.
In today’s workplaces, the idea of the “strong Black woman” has morphed into a dangerous expectation. It’s an invisible burden that demands we show up as unbreakable, selfless, endlessly competent — even when we’re exhausted, overwhelmed or in need of support ourselves.
I’m not the only one who feels this. Black women across industries, from corporate offices to classrooms, nonprofits to hospitals, tell stories of being the go-to person: the problem-solver, the emotional caretaker, the one expected to mentor, advise, volunteer and deliver—often without acknowledgment, compensation or even a simple “thank you.”
Understanding the burden
Research confirms what many of us know firsthand: the “strong Black woman” stereotype creates unrealistic, dehumanizing expectations. Studies show that Black women are more likely to be assigned extra responsibilities, asked to take on emotional labor and overlooked for promotions because they’re perceived as “handling it all” already.
This bias shows up in subtle ways. Black women are less likely to be offered flexibility, more likely to be penalized for advocating for themselves and often face harsher judgment in performance evaluations. When we’re seen only as resilient workhorses, our humanity — our right to rest, vulnerability and balance — is erased.
Emotional labor and burnout
Let’s be clear: the burden isn’t just about workload. It’s about emotional labor. Black women are often called upon to mentor younger employees, mediate office conflicts, sit on diversity panels and represent the company’s “commitment” to inclusion — all while excelling in their actual jobs.
This expectation is draining. It contributes to the growing rates of burnout among Black professional women. We’re applauded for how much we can handle, but rarely asked: Should you have to handle all this?
Workplace bias and microaggressions
This stereotype feeds into deeper workplace biases and microaggressions. Colleagues may assume Black women don’t need help or feedback. Leaders may overlook us for growth opportunities, assuming we’re already thriving. Even worse, when we express frustration or set boundaries, we risk being labeled as “difficult” or “angry.”
We are caught in a no-win situation: expected to be endlessly strong but penalized the moment we push back.
What needs to change
We urgently need a shift in workplace culture — and it starts with dismantling the “strong Black woman” trope. Here’s what that looks like:
- See Black women as whole people. We are not just pillars of strength or symbols of resilience. We are complex individuals with needs, dreams and limits, just like anyone else.
- Provide equitable workloads. Stop assuming Black women can or should carry more. Review task assignments, check in regularly and rebalance responsibilities when needed.
- Compensate emotional labor. If Black women are mentoring, advising, or supporting DEI initiatives, make sure that work is acknowledged, valued and compensated.
- Challenge performance biases. Evaluate how unconscious stereotypes may shape feedback, promotions and leadership pipelines. Are you rewarding overwork but ignoring potential?
- Support mental health. Normalize conversations about stress and burnout, and offer resources that recognize the specific challenges Black women face at work.
Rethinking language and expectations
Words matter. When we call Black women “strong” without nuance, we box them in. We deny them the full spectrum of human experience: softness, vulnerability, rest and the right to say no.
It’s time to create workplaces where Black women can bring their authentic selves, not just their superhuman versions, where they can thrive not because they’re forced to be strong, but because they’re fully seen, valued and supported.
As we move forward, let’s leave behind the tired tropes. Let’s build cultures where Black women no longer have to choose between success and survival—and where they’re finally allowed to just be.
