It wasn’t too long ago, that I had a conversation with some of my closest friends about crazy domestic violence cases we were seeing on television and reading in the newspaper. There was one I read about a dispute that turned violent when one man killed his wife during an altercation. I can only imagine what was happening in the hope that could lead someone to end someone’s life, but as spectators from the outside looking in, many of us presumed that this could have been just another example of toxic masculinity.
You’re probably asking yourself what that is.
Well, toxic masculinity is a harmful set of societal norms that dictate how men should behave. It creates a culture where men are pressured to suppress their emotions, prioritize aggression, and conform to rigid gender roles. This toxic environment not only harms men themselves but also has detrimental effects on women, children, and society as a whole.
One of the most dangerous aspects of toxic masculinity is its promotion of violence. Men who feel pressured to prove their worth through aggression are more likely to engage in physical and verbal abuse, domestic violence, and even acts of mass violence.
Studies have shown a strong correlation between toxic masculinity and rates of homicide, assault, and other violent crimes. For example, in the United States, the majority of mass shootings are perpetrated by men who exhibit signs of toxic masculinity, such as a sense of entitlement, anger, and a desire for control.
Toxic masculinity also contributes to mental health problems among men. The pressure to be strong and stoic can make it difficult for men to express their emotions and seek help when they are struggling. This can lead to increased rates of depression, anxiety, substance abuse, and even suicide. Men are more likely to die by suicide than women, and many of these deaths can be attributed to the harmful effects of toxic masculinity.
This can have negative consequences for women and children. Men who subscribe to toxic ideals may view women as inferior and objectify them. This can lead to harassment, discrimination, and violence against women. It can create a hostile environment for children, particularly boys, who are pressured to conform to traditional gender roles. This can contribute to bullying, academic difficulties, and mental health problems.
I don’t like to dwell too much on the negative aspects of such topics, because I’d prefer to figure out what can be done. We have to challenge harmful stereotypes and promote healthy masculinity. This involves encouraging men to express their emotions, seek help, and build healthy relationships with others. It also requires us to create a culture that values empathy, compassion, and equality. Schools, workplaces, and communities must promote gender equality and challenge harmful gender norms.
I often talk to young Black men in the community who spend a lot of their time participating in mentorship programs, and one effective strategy for combating toxic masculinity is to promote positive male role models. By highlighting men who are compassionate, supportive, and successful without resorting to aggression, we can inspire others to adopt healthier behaviors.
It’s also important to provide men with opportunities to develop their emotional intelligence and communication skills. This can be done through therapy, support groups, and educational programs.
Honestly, fragile masculinity is weak behavior and I’m just about tired of hearing all of these sad stories.
