The dream of a fairytale wedding has long been a staple in the American narrative. However, the reality for many Black brides is far removed from this idealized vision. With the average wedding cost soaring to a staggering $35,000, the financial burden is becoming increasingly difficult to bear.
For Black couples, the pressure to create a lavish affair can be even more pronounced, often fueled by societal expectations and the desire to showcase their cultural heritage. But as costs continue to rise, many face tough choices: scale back the dream, go into debt, or find innovative ways to celebrate their love without breaking the bank.
The Defender recently attended the Bride Extravaganza Show at the George R. Brown Convention Center to chat with a few brides and learn their perspectives on navigating the stresses of wedding planning.
At the end of the day, it’s about starting a life with the person you love, not
Kayla Harris
about impressing anyone else
“At the end of the day, it’s about starting a life with the person you love, not about impressing anyone else,” said Kayla Harris, a 2026 bride. “We’re going to have an intimate destination wedding. I’m a planner. I’m all for DIY (do it yourself) projects, but I have non-negotiables on which I will spend money, like videos and photos.”
Harris is part of a growing number of Black brides who are redefining wedding traditions and prioritizing affordability. They take control of their special day without sacrificing style or meaning by opting for smaller, more intimate ceremonies, choosing off-peak dates, and embracing DIY elements.
Tonya Jones is a November 2024 bride. She’s been planning her wedding for 150 guests since March. With her nuptials around the corner, she said no matter how organized you might be, there will always be a cost that wasn’t originally in the budget.
It’s only one day, and you don’t want
Tonya Jones
to be on the street after.
“You don’t realize all the details you need to focus on. You go online, and it’s all glam, and you want everything you see, but the reality is your finances,” she said. “It’s only one day, and you don’t want to be on the street after. You can have a beautiful wedding on a budget. You don’t need to go to the courthouse if you don’t have it like that. It’s strategy and discipline.”
Wedding professionals are also stepping up to support brides in navigating the often-overwhelming world of wedding planning. Kendra Blacksher works with Weddings Unlimited, the one-stop shop for wedding entertainment.
“We have all-inclusive pricing; you don’t have to deal with fees, and the taxes are already included. We believe in full transparency with our couples, especially if you are on a budget,” she said. “We are not out here trying to price gouge. Our packages do that so that on the day of, there are no worries.”
Aisha Osanyin, the owner of La Reve Bridal Couture, remembered the stresses of planning her wedding 14 years ago. She advises other brides to converse transparently about finances and how much both families are willing to contribute.
“Don’t take anyone’s promise as official until they cut the check. The biggest mistake you can make is adding an unconfirmed amount to your budget only for that person to disappoint you,” she said. “Create a spreadsheet and itemize every single thing. It’s not worth it taking out a loan for it.”
That is why her business offers prices for every budget, starting at $899 and going up to $2,000 for a dress.
“Every woman wants to feel like a princess, and no one likes the feeling of settling,” she said. “Be mindful of your spending, research, connect with vendors who fit your budget, and give quality because they are out there.”
