When Onyi Oriji-Dor introduces herself, she keeps it simple: “I am a therapist.”
But behind those words is a decade of dedication to guiding people through life’s challenges.
A licensed clinical social worker and supervisor, she runs Merite Counseling & Consulting, a Houston-based virtual private practice serving clients across Texas.
A California native who studied in Boston before making Houston her home, Oriji-Dor admits that becoming a therapist wasn’t always the plan.
“Originally, when I started school, I never saw myself here,” she recalls. “In graduate school, there were four Black students in my entire class and just one Black professor who taught diversity. I didn’t see many Black therapists in private practice. I’m sure they existed, but I wasn’t aware of them.”
Her career began in medical settings, where she provided supportive counseling. Over time, with encouragement from mentors and peers, she took the leap into private practice.
“When I got here and became more connected, I saw mentors encouraging me to step out. I owe a lot of where I am to those people,” said Oriji-Dor.
Putting clients in driver’s seat
At the heart of Oriji-Dor’s work is a client-centered approach.
“The client always determines what journey we’re going on and when it starts or stops,” explained Oriji-Dor. “I hope that when people work with me, they feel safe, listened to and most of all understood. Life is complicated. My goal is that when they come to therapy, they find security and peace.”
Her dedication is evident not just to clients but to colleagues.
“Onyi Oriji-Dor is truly inspiring,” says fellow Nigerian American therapist Damilola Coker. “She has built Merite Counseling into a safe, culturally responsive space where clients feel seen, heard and supported. She shows up fully for her clients, her community and her family, and still makes space to collaborate and remind colleagues we’re not alone in this work.
“Onyi’s dedication and ability to transform lives make her a remarkable leader.”
Mercedes Anderson, a licensed clinical social worker, agrees.
“Finding someone in your profession who shares your passion, purpose and integrity while still inspiring you is a rare gem,” said Anderson. “And that is what Onyi is for me.”
Correcting misconceptions about therapy
Oriji-Dor is quick to challenge the myths that keep people away from therapy. For example, cost doesn’t have to be a barrier.
“Therapy doesn’t have to be expensive,” says Oriji-Dor. “You can use insurance. Many employers have Employee Assistance Program (EAP) sessions, and you don’t have to use the EAP therapist they assign. You can use an outside therapist and get reimbursed.”
She also emphasizes that therapy is not a lifelong commitment unless the client chooses it to be.
“People stop and start therapy. If you’re just going through a hard time, it’s okay to see a therapist during that season and stop afterward,” she said. “If you find therapy helpful in every phase of your life, you can continue. You’re in the driver’s seat. You drive the boat.”
The power of mentorship
Though she has become a mentor to many, Oriji-Dor openly acknowledges the guidance she’s received. One person in particular, Dr. Allison Bates, played a pivotal role in her decision to pursue private practice.
“She would laugh if she heard me call her my mentor,” Oriji-Dor says with a smile. “We met as colleagues, but she was crucial in helping me launch my practice five years ago. She offered encouragement, great guidance and really knows how to speak life into people.
“Without her, I don’t think I would’ve had the courage to take that leap.”
Grounded and growing
Despite her professional accomplishments, Oriji-Dor describes herself as an introvert—someone who has had to step out of her comfort zone to serve others. That courage has allowed her to create a space where clients can process, heal and thrive.
In the end, her work is about empowerment.
“You create your journey along with your therapist,” she says about those seeking therapy. “My role is to walk alongside you, not dictate where you go. Healing belongs to the client. I’m here to make sure they know they don’t have to take that journey alone.”
