There is a particular kind of audacity that comes with a man using a microphone to tell grown women they have expired.
Miami rapper Trick Daddy (age 51, might I add) made headlines recently after doubling down on his preference not to date women over 40. In a candid, recorded interview with a celebrity news platform, the rapper complained that mature women brag too much about their credit scores, LLCs, and standards. He wants a woman who is, in his own words, “young, tender, and needy.”
Here is a man who finalized a public divorce in 2022, has been candid about ongoing personal health struggles, and whose biggest hits came out more than two decades ago, now instructing Black women who are building businesses, earning advanced degrees, and creating generational wealth at record rates, to lower their standards.
Trick Daddy is not the first man to weaponize age against Black women from behind a platform. These days, there is so much red pill content that promotes this type of rhetoric. And for the old heads who don’t know what that is, it’s an online ideology, primarily within the manosphere, claiming that modern society is matriarchal and systematically disadvantages men. It promotes that women are manipulative, feminists are destroying society, and men must adopt “alpha” behaviors to dominate.
The late internet personality Kevin Samuels built an audience of more than 1.4 million YouTube subscribers by largely doing the same thing, declaring in a viral video that unmarried women over 35 are “leftovers.” His advice to Black women was to lower their standards, shrink their expectations, and be grateful. Samuels died in 2022 at 57, twice divorced, unmarried, and by every measure he used to grade women, expired himself.
Age shaming has long been deployed as a tool to destabilize women, particularly Black women, who have historically been told they are too much of everything except desirable. Too loud. Too independent. Too accomplished. Too old. The message never really changes, only the platform does. What used to be whispered at kitchen tables now streams across podcast feeds and YouTube channels with millions of followers.
According to 2024 Pew Research Center data, approximately 38% of young Black women have earned a college degree, compared to just 26 percent of Black men, the largest gender gap in educational attainment of any racial group in America. Within the Black community, women earn 64.1% of all bachelor’s degrees, 71.5% of all master’s degrees, and more than 65.9% of all doctoral, medical, and dental degrees, according to the American Association of University Women.
A 2025-2026 Wells Fargo report confirmed Black women are the fastest-growing group of entrepreneurs in the United States, with Black women-owned employer businesses growing 13% between 2024 and 2025. Nearly 2.7 million Black women-owned businesses are generating an estimated $98.3 billion in annual revenue.
So when these kinds of men complain about a woman his age having an LLC and a credit score she is proud of, he is not describing a threat to his ego.
The moment a woman accumulates education, financial literacy, and a clear understanding of what she deserves in a relationship, she becomes harder to manipulate.
These types of men do not pursue younger women because they are inherently more compatible. They pursue women who are still figuring themselves out, women more likely to overlook red flags, accept less, and remain grateful for the minimum.
Black women are not waiting on validation to flourish. Plenty are in loving, committed, thriving relationships. Others are single and absolutely thriving, raising families with intention, launching businesses, and living fully on their own terms, with or without anyone’s approval. Life does not end at 30. For many Black women, it is only at 40 and beyond that life truly begins to make sense.
The women who are being dismissed have outgrown these individuals. Not because of age, but because of growth. And no amount of age-shaming rhetoric changes that reality.
